. .What do I mean by that? An alcoholic will change his behavior at the drop of a hat. So what? This will not mean the alcoholic has changed his thinking... or subsequent actions.
. .You cannot threaten, shame, guilt, beg, nor reward an alcoholic into better actions nor a better life. It just won't work. An alcoholic will change their behavior for you while you are watching them, but will resort back to their own behavior once you take your eyes off them.
. .The only way an alcoholic changes their behavior is when they become repulsed by it and become willing to ask that it get removed. Guess Who removes the behavior?