Saturday, October 2, 2010

Alcoholics Anonymous is not a place to "get" something

That's right.  Alcoholics Anonymous is not even a place to "get" sober.  We get sober laying on the floor with our head in the toilet.  We get sober laying on the concrete sidewalk outside of our favorite bar.  We get sober behind a set of bars in a pink room.  We might even get sober in a hospital bed.

But to come to A.A. expecting to "get" something is ludacris.  If anything, we come to A.A. to get rid of a thing or two.  One thing I've been afforded the opportunity to get rid of in A.A. is my ability to lie to myself and you.  I can still do that from time to time, but it doesn't sit too well anymore... with me or with you.

Those anti/XAers out there are out there right now, thinking of how they hate A.A.  They are spinning up proof and evidence that we are their problem and we are to blame... we are the bad guys.  Look at them.  They're doing it right now. 

The people who didn't find A.A. useful walked away and went on their way.  They still exist... outside of A.A. and their hatred for it.  In fact, they don't even hate A.A.  They are fine with folks who got by with it.  But the anti/XAer is so narcissistic that they don't want you to have it either.  They are fine with not needing A.A., but they don't even want it to work for you either.  Why is this?  Because they went to A.A. expecting to get something and they didn't get it.

The thought never occurred to them to give something.  If someone truly needed help and couldn't be helped by A.A., they would have at least noticed that those who are helped by A.A. are too busy doing things for others and don't have time to have problems of their own... or they just don't have time to be bothered by their own problems because their eyes, ears, and hands are pointed out in front of them... out into the world helping you and me.  They are at least for a time being helpful and unselfish.  And it don't take time sober to do this.  You just do it. 

If someone couldn't be helped by A.A. really cared about other drunks and wanted to be helpful to them, they'd be busy finding those drunks and getting them to a place where they could meet and help each other and yet others in return.  It might look something like A.A., but different.  It could be logical and secular and not spiritual.  Or it could be churchy if that's what they want.  It could even be exclusive of criminals.  They could call it "Non-farting, cussing, 13th Stepping, stealing, cheating, smoking, coffee-drinking, donut eating, cake eating, hugging Anonymous.  Or they could just go on the internet and form a blog and a forum to spin stories about criminals who crossed paths with A.A. and now kill and abuse people and make fun of AAers... er... wait.  They already got that!  Nevermind!

I have some of that to attend to now... so I'll leave you now to get out into the f2f world and hope you have a fantastic Saturday!


  1. Thanks, but no thanks Steve.

    Now my brother is a born-again Southern Baptist zealot and he'd love to discuss with you how you are going to hell if you don't dot your "I's" and cross your "T's" like he does and you could do the same to him in turn.

    I think Jesus is wonderful. He's the Man! God in the flesh! The "And there was Light!" But Jesus wants us drunks to help other drunks primarily and anybody else who needs a hand.

    Do you have a problem with booze yourself, Steve? Or do you not drink the libation because it's a sin against God? Do you drink the Blood of Christ on Sunday? If so, have some Blood and Body of Christ on me.

    God is infinite and omniscient and omnipresent and is It's own Authority. He doesn't need any further authentication from you or me. Right?

    Thanks for the invite though. You do take care.

  2. I agree, there is nothing to "get" in Alcoholics Anonymous. But there is a lot to give up, or to let go of. To fully embrace this as a way of life requires a radical letting go.

    Yet I hear all the time, the Ninth Step promises turned into carrots, something to "work for and get," a selfish thing. Yet one one of those promises says something about no matter how far down the scale we've gone we can see how our experience can benefit others. So my entire drinking experience isn't for me. My recovery isn't for me. It is for you.

    More MOTR bullshit. Sickens me how they've taken a program of self-abandonment and turned it into self-help and self-improvement.

  3. Which would bear credence to our detractors on some level... if only to keep us on our toes.